HOW TO FORGIVE LIKE A PRO

Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to make up with other people or even let them know you’ve forgiven them, experts say. Basically, it’s just finding a way to dump the potent brew of anger, resentment and “Why me?” that sloshes around inside when you remember being treated unfairly. It’s equal parts acceptance and resilience. What’s more, says Dr Robert Enright, founder of the International Forgiveness Institute (yes, there’s even an organisation dedicated to it), it can – and ideally should – become habitual. Being a forgiving person, rather than just excusing a particular offence, seems to carry the most health benefits. The habit pays off, because the more you try to let go of anger and resentment, the better you’ll get at it. Manage that, researchers say, and over time you’ll heal faster from old scars, everyday slights and painful betrayals. Keep reading for five steps that will help you begin to let go.