Fix your gaze

‘When negotiating matters of the heart in particular, eye contact can make all the difference,’ says psychologist Meg Arroll. ‘But in tricky conversations, it can be hard to achieve. This twist on a mindfulness technique takes the pressure off: Focus on the colour and pattern of your partner’s eyes. You may notice that the appearance of the iris is complex – a kaleidoscope of colours and patterns with pigmented rings, crypts and furrows. Once you’ve investigated one aspect of the eye, look away, then focus on another. Give it a go – you might be surprised by your partner’s response. healthspan.co.uk