Self-criticism

You care about others, which gives the impression that you’re a natural socialiser – but your compassion extends to everyone but yourself. People may be surprised to learn how much you overthink your relationships and question whether people genuinely want to see you. When you’re hard on yourself, it’s difficult to believe that other people aren’t also tuned into your perceived faults and failings. It’s no wonder you feel socially anxious, unless it’s with people you think accept you without judgment. It’s good to question yourself and ask how you could have done things differently, but overthinking every interaction is not helpful, and setting unrealistic expectations of yourself sends a constant message that you’re not good enough.

You feel on safe ground when you know you’re needed or the focus is on someone else, so you may be the one who organises birthday gatherings for others. You can feel frustrated when no one does the same for you, even when you insist that you don’t want a fuss. Self-compassion is the key to adding ease to your interactions. Turn your inner critic into your personal coach and venturing out of your social comfort zone – and asking for what you need – will feel possible.