Isolation

Quality, not quantity, in relationships is important to most of us and you may prefer thought-provoking discussion to small talk. But those who are more introverted can feel drained by too much social contact. It’s a fine balance because reducing social contact too much can leave you isolated! Periods of loneliness are normal but they can undermine confidence in initiating social contact, and you can rely on other people to get in touch. You may then get trapped in a loneliness loop, questioning whether reaching out is welcome. There’s still a stigma attached to talking about loneliness, and it can feel as if you’ve failed at something everyone else does easily. You may also think it’s your fault that you’re isolated, which further undermines your confidence.

Opening up to someone you trust can make a difference and may help you gain perspective on your feelings. Isolation, like any emotional challenge, can put a negative filter on thoughts. As a counterbalance, reflect on the successful and rewarding relationships in your life – past or present – before social interactions to boost confidence and reduce anxiety. Mentally savour daily pleasures and achievements, however small, to improve your mood and provide a source of conversation.