San Francisco Chronicle Late Edition : 2020-09-24



B3 | | Thursday, September 24, 2020 SFChronicl­ XXXXX BAY AREA Vanessa Arredondo is a San Francisco Chronicle staff writer. Email: vanessa.arredondo@ sfchronicl­ Twitter: @v_anana LifeTribut­es IN THIS SECTION AYOOB, Diane BARNES, Marion BUCHLEITNE­R, William DANTZIG, Bernadette Diane Likas Ayoob Bernadette Dantzig Marion December 8, 1940 - September 20, 2020 January 5, 1928 - September 21, 2020 Shipman Bernadette was born in Queens, New York to Mary Feeney Flynn and Melville Flynn. Her brother Frank preceded her in death in 2009. After eight years at St. Barts Grammar School in Elmhurst, New York, Bernadette was awarded an academic scholarshi­p to Bishop McDonald High School in Brooklyn. After graduation, she attended Grace Institute in Manhattan for a year, before joining the legal department of W.R. Grace. Bernadette married Ed Dantzig on October 30, 1965 and later moved from Long Island to Pleasanton in 1973. Together she and Ed raised their three children, daughter Kerry, and sons Brian and Michael. She is also survived by her loving daughter-in-laws, Melissa and Carrie Dantzig. She cherished her grandchild­ren and loved seeing them often. She talked, listened, and doted on them. Grandsons Alex (Briegan), Dylan, Tanner, Connor, Liam and granddaugh­ter Nicole, will cherish their memories and time spent together with Grandma. Bernadette’s friends from St. Augustine Catholic Church, her work and volunteer friends at Hope Hospice and her exercise, bookclub, & coffee girlfriend­s Diane Likas Ayoob died peacefully on September 21, 2020 from congestive heart failure. She was 92, and a lifelong resident of the Bay Area. With Thomas Ayoob, her husband of nearly 64 years, the San Francisco native raised two sons in Daly City and San Mateo: Keith, an Associate Professor Emeritus of Pediatrics at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, and Paul, a retired San Jose police officer and designer of custom furniture. Art in many forms was prominent in Diane’s life. She was a talented artist, with particular fondness for charcoal and ink drawings, and seldom refused an opportunit­y to visit a museum, both in the Bay Area and when she traveled to New York and Europe. She studied dance for many years with several artists, including Ruth St. Denis. Though her studies ended when she married, she wanted her sons to appreciate the performing arts as much as she did. When buying tickets for their first musical, she told the ticket agent, “I want your best seats so my boys will enjoy it and they’ll want to come back.” Diane was an outstandin­g home cook who insisted on her family sitting down at the table together for dinner and breakfast. Her repertoire encompasse­d many cuisines but since she’d make only one meal at a time, her sons learned to enjoy new dishes. She was a docent at the San Francisco Zoo for many years and set out to learn sign language so she could give tours to hearing impaired children and adults. She loved doing those tours and would say about her hearing-impaired groups, “they can’t hear the animals but they should know their stories.” Diane was also active in causes that spoke to her, so much so that she was known as “the petition lady” on her Daly City neighborho­od, for her efforts to get measures on ballots. An ardent advocate for women’s reproducti­ve rights, she volunteere­d for Planned Parenthood long before Roe V. Wade. Barnes Aug 30, 1922 Sept 5, 2020 What would have been a fourth generation California­n hit a small speed bump when Marion Shipman was born on August 30th, 1922, while her mother, Florence Shipman was accompanyi­ng her husband “Bud” (John) on a sales trip to Oregon. She was raised above Lake Merritt, graduated from Oakland High School, and went on to Stanford University. In 1942, while out with friends, was introduced to a dashing first lieutenant who was passing through the Oakland Army Base on his way overseas named Jerry Barnes. They fell instantly in love, and Jerry proposed to her before the evening was done. Married at the Wars end, the newlyweds settled in Oakland where they remained their entire life, raising a family that eventually included four children, (Jeffery, Stephen, Leslie, and David), twelve grandchild­ren (Todd, Matthew, Denise, Christy, Jenny, Tyler, Jenna, McKenzie, Shana, Lindsay, Zack, and Hannah), and at last count 22 great grandchild­ren (I’m not even going to try!) Marion’s roll in life was mother and grandmothe­r, and there was none better. She was constantly active with her children’s schools, volunteeri­ng with PTA and other projects, and when her children grew up, she channeled that desire to give as a floor helper at what was then Merritt Hospital, where she volunteere­d for over 20 years. She loved to travel, and meet new people along the way, gaining lifelong friends and memories. She was a special friend to her two cats, Frankie and Dino, and an occasional squirrel, always at her back door looking for an ever ready peanut. Preceded in death by Jerry in 2004, she remained in her Piedmont Pines home of over 60 years until the final weeks of her life. A special thanks to her caregiver for the past six years Christina, and the caring staff of Lafayette Gardens for their loving attention, especially in her final weeks. Marion chose not to have her remains placed in Arlington National Cemetery with Jerry, but instead will join her mother at Chapel of the Chimes. A home town girl until the end! A memorial service is planned sometime in the future. Should you desire, a donation can be made in her name to the Best Friends Animal Sanctuary in Utah. She frequently wrote to all her congresspe­rsons and whichever president caused her to want to speak her mind: lower taxes, better schools, a woman’s right to choose. Later in life, domestic violence also became a cause, and for her, this was personal. Diane became an advocate for gay rights, after her son Keith came out to the family. Diane read 27 books on all perspectiv­es of being gay and having a gay family member. She drew on experience in her young life when she attended classes from Bayard Rustin, gay black pacifist, who took an interest in her and encouraged her to express herself about causes that moved her. She was thrilled when she learned he mastermind­ed the 1963 civil rights march on Washington. During the earliest stages of the HIV crisis, she had no difficulty hugging persons with HIV “because someone should do that,” and had no patience for then-friends who did not approve of her “touching those people.” Even through the most difficult times, Diane never lost her sense of humor. Her philosophy was “ya gotta be able to laugh or the tough stuff will bury you,” and she wasn’t above telling a dirty joke or judiciousl­y using choice words to get a point across. Her humor, love of laughter, and effervesce­nt personalit­y will be remembered my many who loved her. She will be much missed by all who loved her, including Keith’s partner of 29 years, Rod Deane; Roy and Tess Fairchild, and Sue and Don Larson and their daughters, Casey and Kelly, who grew to love her as their “Grandma D”. May her spirit and good works live on. gave her great love, support and encouragem­ent during her long battle with ALS. Bernadette was an avid reader and loved to travel, especially to visit family in New York, Denis, Dorothy and Marian, and to her large and loving family in Ireland and England. Staying in close contact with extended family gave her hope and sustained her during her illness. Heartfelt gratitude to the Feeney, Lohan, and Molynoux families. A funeral mass for Bernadette will be held at St. Augustine Catholic Church at 1 p.m. on Friday, September 25. William Buchleitne­r January 26, 1943 - September 3, 2020 William (Bill) Buchleitne­r of San Francisco passed away at age 77 on September 3, 2020. Bill is predecease­d by his parents, Florence (D’Onofrio) and Christian Buchleitne­r and survived by his brother, John Buchleitne­r (Barbara) of Severna Park, Maryland and sister, Patricia Strollo (Robert) of Endicott, NY. He is also survived by many nieces and nephews and great nieces and nephews. Bill grew up in New Rochelle, NY and played baseball on the high school team. He graduated from Manhattan College and attended Fresno State in California before serving in the Army in Vietnam. When he returned from the war, he earned a graduate degree from Humboldt State and settled in San Francisco, a city he loved, and spent the rest of his life there. He worked in recreation and Hello Nautilus Society CREMATIONS Cremation Services $895.00 hospitalit­y until he retired. Bill was a talented artist and liked to draw and paint. He was also active physically and loved to golf, fish, bike, and play tennis. And he made the best spaghetti and meatballs the family ever tasted! 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