Western Daily Press : 2020-07-10

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In partnershi­p with FUN LOVER BOUQUET Sending messages when someone dies ANGELA VAUGHAN AUGUST 20, 1944 – JUNE 13, 2020 WE’RE HERE TO HELP YOU CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS TO SAY GOODBYE Angela loved foreign cruises and was a keen charity worker close to you who has died. Remember that if you speak from the heart though, you can’t really go wrong. Co-op Funeralcar­e has been helping local communitie­s throughout the UK to say goodbye to special people for decades. Here are some tips from their team... When someone passes away a lovely thing to do is send a sympathy card or funeral flowers with a little note. It’s a very personal choice deciding what to say or write, but whatever you opt for it can be hard to find the right words, or ones that you feel are fitting to pay tribute to someone ANGELA HAD A GREAT SENSE OF HUMOUR AND WAS FIERCELY INDEPENDEN­T, DESPITE HAVING A VERY DIFFICULT START IN LIFE met husband-to-be Frank and they were married for six years until his death in 1980. “Angela worked for the Blind Workshops and campaigned when the threat came to close them, until she was in her late 50s.” She remained fiercely independen­t throughout her life, and spent many hours stitching colourful tapestries at which she was skilful. But Angela became increasing­ly frail as she got older, especially after a significan­t fall in 2015, and eventually moved into extra-care accommodat­ion last year. She died in Southmead hospital, close to the former family home, following a spinal stroke. Pamela says: “Angela travelled all over the world, going on trips and cruises with mum and dad, and her disability never stopped her from enjoying her life. “She loved her glass of sherry in the evening and had lots of friends. My sister had a wonderful sense of humour – she had always been great fun… “What my dad would call ‘a little monkey’ when she was little,” Pamela adds. “She played with cousins the same age as her at our grandparen­ts, and they were forbidden to go on their strawberry patch. Angela used to put a pair of large shoes on her hands and crawl to the strawberri­es, fill the shoes and then take the strawberri­es back and they’d all sit and eat them. The others used to get into trouble – until they discovered Angela was actually the ringleader!” WHEN she was born, doctors thought she would never walk but, like her parents, Angela Vaughan showed a determinat­ion and courage to prove them wrong. And it was this strength and character which saw her enjoy a full and happy life – and, indeed, to walk. “She did look like she was a little tipsy,” smiles sister Pamela Whittle. “But walk she did, and she was strong and independen­t for almost her entire life.” Angela was one of two daughters born to Douglas Reed, a Bristol policeman, and his wife Ella, and she had cerebral palsy. practice with Angela in between visits. We had a big exercise couch in the living room of our policeman’s flat.” The physio from whom they sought help was Berta Bobath, MBE, who created a method of rehabilita­tion and therapy known as the Bobath Concept, still the “most popular approach for treating neurologic­ally impaired patients in the western world”. Inspired and committed, mum Ella became a committee member of the Bristol Spastics Society (now Scope) and Angela opened The Spastics Society Training Centre and offices when they were officially launched. “I still believe that in her own way Angela helped in the developmen­t of future treatments for hers and other disability conditions,” says Pamela. Before Angela was able to go to school she had a peripateti­c teacher at home who helped her to read and write before going to Bristol Open Air school and, subsequent­ly, a Spastics Society training centre. She worked at BHS Corrugated Ltd before getting a job as a packer at the Bristol Royal School and Workshops for the Blind. There she From your heart to your loved one Where funeral flowers are concerned, just a handful of words can express a great deal. Some examples are: “You will always be missed”, “In loving remembranc­e of”, and “Always in our hearts”. You might also want to say something a little more intricate or sentimenta­l. If that’s the case, options could include: “You brought joy, happiness and laughter to all who met you. You will be deeply missed”, or “Time may fade or pass away, but memories of you will always stay”. If you or the loved one you have lost had a strong faith you might want to use a more religious message for your funeral flowers. Keep it simple, with: “Goodnight and God bless”, or: “May God keep you by his side”. Or, choose ● ● such as: “God saw you getting weary, so he did what he thought best. He put his arms around you and whispered come and rest”. For sympathy flowers, you could choose something short and sweet, such as “Our heartfelt condolence­s”, or something like “May you find comfort and healing in the love of those who remember with you”. For more advice and plenty more suggestion­s see: coop. co.uk/funeralcar­e/advice/ sympathy-messages PIONEERING Angela travelled all over the world, going on trips and cruises with mum and dad, and her disability never stopped her from enjoying her life “Angela couldn’t walk at all when she was born,” says Pamela, “and no-one knew why, but when she was around five my mother read an article in the Picture Post about a pioneering physiother­apist in London who was working with children with ‘unidentifi­ed disabiliti­es’. “My mother was friendly with a local physio who invited her to a meeting when this person was coming from London to give a demonstrat­ion of her techniques to specialist­s. My sister had barely stood and never walked at that point, but the physiother­apist managed to get Angela to walk for the very first time, though she did warn my parents it wouldn’t be a permanent thing. “But that began family trips to London every three months where my mother and father would be shown exercises which they’d then ● ● Pamela, Angela’s sister ● Saying goodbye is never easy, but we can help you to say the best goodbye as possible. Visit coop.co.uk/funeralcar­e PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTE­D BY PRESSREADE­R PressReade­r.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY . ORIGINAL COPY . ORIGINAL COPY . ORIGINAL COPY . ORIGINAL COPY . ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW

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